@chillybot@infosec.exchange I’ll preface this with two things. I have no experience moderating anything of remotely a large size, and I had no idea what IFIN even was or who was involved before yesterday’s post was boosted in my timeline. Which is all to say, I am way outside of the target demographic and have no personal stake in the moderation decision. 😅 But since I did have enough of a reaction to the post to bother with the subtoot (something way outside of my usual habits), I figure it’s worth explaining that reaction: The post came off as “you owe me your pronouns or you can’t come play with us”, which *feels* a breath away from “you have to tell me what’s in your pants before you can use this potty or play the sportsball”. NOT that that’s what the post was saying, but it still hit the same “you owe me your self declaration” vibes. Now, even without any kind of context for what the IFIN was, I *assumed* based on the last sentence “If you don't take this seriously, we have no reason to expect you to respect our community's safety.” that this whole situation was because they valued respecting diverse identities. BUT. That’s only because nobody I follow would be boosting something from an unsafe org. Yes, this is partly an issue of out-of-context boosts. There was no other context to let me know that it wasn’t some kind of “you have to pick m/f because we need to protect the children” adjacent thing and that it wasn’t a post against neopronouns. That said, I can’t imagine I’m the only queerdo who sees a prescriptivist sounding “or else” post and immediately decides “welp, never gonna bother with that place!” before figuring out what it’s even about. And I’m definitely never gonna appeal to join a place that rejected me solely on the basis of my hypothetical whimsi-pronouns. Like, ok you unfairly judged me so right back at you. 😅 I guess it strikes me as a situation that should have a clear explanation of the why you’re insisting on pronoun declarations *on the application*. And that posts/toots on the topic are better served framed as a “we protect our folx by requiring pronouns on the application. Applications that use that field to spew hate will be yeeted.” Because who is actually seeing that post? Most likely your allies, no? Are the people sipping on the hatorade reading your posts? So starting it with “tell your friends 🤜🤛” just hits really weirdly. Again, I am super outside of the org’s audience and am in no way personally impacted by this. So I don’t expect my 2¢ (not adjusted for inflation) to be relevant to the specific situation, which is why I subtooted rather than replying to the OP. I didn’t want my outsider kneejerk reaction to detract from what seems like a great project. @ifin@infosec.exchange